“If You create the game then You create the rules…”

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Two words: self care.

Lately, I’ve thought a great deal about this topic. What exactly IS self care? Some say it’s taking time for yourself, whether to read a book in peace and quiet, enjoying a cup of tea (or another beverage of choice), getting a mani-pedi or something else you can do to pamper yourself.

It’s interesting, as I used to view self care the same way, and find all of the above acceptable. However, I think there’s more to it. Perhaps it’s something I’ve realized with age, but my interpretation of self care has evolved into overall caring for your own physical and mental well being. In short, doing what makes your heart happiest.

What makes your heart happiest can be a broad category, but it makes sense, as none of us are one-dimensional characters (I hope!). This weekend has been a great example of going what makes my heart happiest. Friday night, my BFF and I went to a T-Pain and 2 Chainz show, Saturday started with beach yoga and friends, followed by lunch with one of my derbies, dinner with another derby friend, followed by our monthly HOYH meeting. Today, I was able to make fresh apple, beet and carrot juice while handling some food prep before hitting up the skating rink before my shift at the radio station. Spending time with quality people and doing things we enjoy is a worthy use of a weekend, which makes me grateful.

A recent interview of Janet Mock by Sooo Many White Guys podcast brought up a really interesting piece of advice (watch it HERE):

“It’s about being stingy with your time, your body and with your talents. Not everyone is deserving of you, of your body, of your story, of your time. I wish that someone had told me ‘girl, you are everything’, you may not know it yet, but you don’t need to spend time trying to chase him, waiting on your phone, or dealing with this roommate, or all of these things, like, be stingy, you only have so much time in this world, in this particular body, in this particular experience; don’t spend it! Budget that shit! Budget how you spend your time, and the spaces you choose to occupy and who you choose to bring into your world.”  Janet Mock

This piece of advice was something I’ve found helpful, and it strikes me as a fantastic example of self care. I’d love to hear what you consider self care, whether it’s an activity, or a mindset. Hit me up at bootifulbanshee@gmail.com

This week, I focused on getting my eating back on track, cleaning up my act. All I have to do is stick to it!

Starting weight: 222 lbs

8/21/16 weigh-in: 203.6 lbs

8/28/16 weigh-in: 201.8 lbs

Weekly weight loss: 1.8 lbs

Total weight loss: 20.2 lbs

This week title is courtesy of India Arie’s Just Do You.

“I heard a voice that told me I’m essential
How all my fears are limiting my potential
Said it’s time to step into the light and
Use every bit of the power I have inside

So what’chu waiting on
Who You waiting for
If You don’t take a chance You’ll never know what’s in store.”

Have a great week! ❤

B

“If I had to do it all again…”

Hello there. It’s been awhile. Almost 6 months…oops!

Life overwhelmed me for a few months and maintaining the blog slipped to the back burner. It’s been a mix of amazing and some things less than. Here’s what you missed:

I found myself in a short lived relationship with a recently divorced father of two, still picking up the pieces. The bonus: his volatile ex-wife, with her history of stalking him and whoever he dated. Despite this, his aesthetic and fantastic conversational skills drew me in. When things fizzled, it wasn’t surprising and I’m grateful it set me free. Nothing against him, but I deserve better. What’s most important is realizing it.

In the midst of all of this, my schedule remained chock full of awesome derby announcing gigs, including WFTDA and MRDA tournaments. I was determined to not allow  anyone or anything derail what I set out to accomplish. My desire to turn the skills acquired from announcing roller derby into a paid gig was strong.

The ECDX 2016 announcer crew, courtesy of Sean Murphy Photography. 

I was accepted to this year’s East Coast Derby Extravaganza in Feasterville, PA, where I worked on the house call amongst some of the world’s best WFTDA announcers. This experience was overwhelming and incredible. One of those top announcers (a D1 Tournament Head) encouraged me to apply for the 2016 WFTDA International Playoffs. A derby friend had encouraged me to apply before attending ECDX, planting the seed. This encouragement is sincerely appreciated, and was a much needed push. I’m happy to report that my application was submitted upon my return home from PA, and I’m a member of the first all-female broadcast crew in WFTDA history at next month’s 2016 WFTDA Division 1 International Playoffs in Columbia, SC.

Earlier in the year, I noticed a lack of announcer training and that some experienced roller derby announcers don’t necessarily refresh their game call to match changes in the game or inclusive derby culture. This inspired me to pitch two class ideas for Northeast Derby Convention, 2016, run by Bruised Boutique. The event organizers liked my ideas and I was added to the roster of coaches at this year’s event. It was a great experience and I’m grateful to share helpful hints with others in the derby community.

The opportunity to record a radio demo reel was presented to me last year and I’ve been looking for radio work since. After many discouraging months, I took a chance and emailed the station managers of four local radio stations my demo reel and revamped announcing resume. A week later, one of the stations called me back! They invited me in for a meeting, which was less of an interview and more figuring out when they could begin training me. Training began during 4th of July weekend and my regular part- time Sunday night shift became official a few weeks later. My dream of working in radio is coming true, even in a small way. Thankfully, there’s much potential and it’s exciting to see where this road leads.

In the studio at FUN107 FM.

The quest at getting and staying healthy, mentally and physically, remains a work in progress.  As for weight loss, it’s been tough, as my workouts haven’t been consistent. Currently, I’m aiming for 3 workouts per week. Thankfully, the scale is still headed downward. It’s helpful to remember that quick weight loss doesn’t always have staying power.

 

Starting weight: 222 lbs

2/28/16 weigh-in: 207 lbs

8/21/16 weigh-in: 203.6 lbs

6 months weight loss: 3.4 lbs

Total weight loss: 18.4 lbs

 

Over the course of the last few months, my level of stress and anxiety became too much to bear. I’ve battled anxiety my whole life, without a diagnosis. A serious talk with an old friend about his experience with getting help and how it improved his overall quality of life was motivating. It was clear that I needed to face how anxiety affected me, and after consulting my LICSW sibling, I felt ready to ask for help. Luckily, I had an annual appointment with my PCP coming up, and had a frank discussion about how I’d been feeling. She prescribed meds, which I’ve taken for a few weeks now and notice small positive changes. So far, I’m happy with taking this step.

Today’s title track is Again, by Faith Evans:

Nobody knows what life may bring.It might make you happy it might make you sad. Sometimes, yeah, but I know there’s a reason for everything (but I know). That’s why I keep believing.  Whatever is meant to be its going to be.”

That’s been my summer, and I wouldn’t change it. I hope the rest of you are enjoying it!  As always, email me at bootifulbanshee@gmail.com with questions or suggestions.

PS- I’ll be back on Sunday. After all, I’m making up for lost time! 🙂